Thursday, May 17, 2012

Would I do it again?

Would I have children so close in age if I could do it all over again? My answer overwhelmingly is YES!

Maisie was not a surprise. She was not an amazing accident. She was planned and hoped for.

We wanted our children close in age. We wanted our children to have a sibling. When I envisioned Calan growing up, I saw an unknown sibling with him, even from a young age.

Did I know what I was getting into? Absolutely not! Did I worry if I would be able to handle it? Absolutely. But I have not for one second thought that I should have done it differently. Having two children close in age isn't for everyone, but it is definitely for me.

I have had my ups and downs, of course. There are nights when I get little sleep because they have tagged teamed me and there are days when I wish I could get a break. I am human after all. But I think no matter what age children you have those feelings are no different if your kids are close in age or if they are not.

What I love about having 2 kids close in age is that I am doing it all at once. Yes, I have 2 kids in diapers, but if I have 1 kid might as well change another diaper. I would actually hate to get out of the diapering stage and then have to start all over again. (Someone else might see that differently, but that is the way I see it.) It is the same with food. If I am cutting up and preparing one meal, might as well make it two.

I love that toys are similar. There are no choking hazards laying around for Maisie to play with right now. Most toys are still "edible." I love that I already have to teach my son to share with someone else. His toys from what he can remember have never just been his. While most of the time, Maisie gives up a toy pretty easily, Calan does have to ask nicely to use it. Or he has to trade her for the toy that he wants. All life lessons that I am so happy that I have to teach now and every day.

I love that they still go to sleep at the same time and nap at the same time. I love that for 3 hours everyday, it is just me. I refresh. I blog. I can get things done. I can nap if I want. I can clean if I want. From 12:30 to 3 or 3:30 every day it is just me. LOVE THAT!

Of course, going out somewhere is not the easiest. It is one huge downfall to two small children. My diaper bag is huge. And eating out is not completely easy, but it is all possible.

I get so excited for this summer and watching Maisie walk along and follow her big brother. Or Calan reaching for Maisie's hand to walk with her somewhere. They are quite the duo already. I love hearing them laugh together from another room. The bond is growing.

Please do not get me wrong, siblings are siblings and there will always be issues, but close together or far apart, those issues are the same.

So, would I do it all over again? Yes. But am I ready for more? Not right now. I am not crazy after all.
Plus, both stay in a stroller, so no chasing after an older child. Containment is sometimes really, really good.  

4 comments:

  1. I love this post! I've never thought of the pros of having children that close together but I can see how great it would be. I bet they will always be best friends. :)

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  2. Thanks. My husband is a year and 2 weeks older than one of his brothers and I have sisters a year and 9 days apart. We kind of knew what we were getting into, but it truly has been a blessing. I absolutely am stealing your Father's Day craft, by the way. So adorable!

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  3. I love this post!!! Reminds me of the days where they would nap together..... ;)

    And it just gets better. :)

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    1. Thanks. Sometimes I wonder if I sound too happy about it, but seriously I think that I have the best job in the world. No job is perfect, but I wouldn't trade being a mom to my little ones for anything.

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