The right words at the right time

The more I learn as an adult makes me realize how lost I was as a child.

I just finished two books that really made me stop and think about how different my past might have been had someone shared this knowledge with me with the right words at the the right time.

I definitely was a teen looking for love, confidence, companionship, self worth, beauty, etc. in all the wrong places. I, like many many many people, just wanted someone to fill a gap that I felt in my life.

I say all the time that I am truly blessed to have met my husband at the tender age of 18 (we married when we were 25) because I have no idea where my life would have ended up.

Please do not get me wrong, I was a good kid. I hung with a good crowd. I just felt lost and alone. Two feelings that I hope my children never feel.

The first book I just finished was "Preparing Him for the Other Woman." It was recommended to me by a parenting mentor of mine. It truly challenges each mom to pray for their sons and their future brides and puts into focus what kind of man you might truly want your son to become.

As I was reading the book though, it really had me thinking that I wish as a female someone had told me to actually be looking for this kind of husband. I just got lucky that he found me. I found a Godly servant husband without really looking and he changed my life. I wish I had been looking for the one versus looking for anyone to fill my weaknesses.

The other book that I just finished is actually written for pre-teens and teenagers. The "Secret Keeper: Delicate Power of Modesty" really puts into perspective the idea of a female power and control and how it can either build up God or tear down man.

I really wish someone would have really taught me the truth about beauty and it how it can be so deceiving. I am sure this is something that no matter what I tell my daughters, it will be a lesson that only experience can teach. The fact is women gain confidence and power by being desired, but is it real?

I struggle often as a parent on how to teach my children an eternal perspective when I myself struggle with all things worldly.

I am sure that this feeling is all 20/20 vision. I am not sure if my life would have been different even if someone had told me these things as a child. I don't know what I would have rebelled against or followed. I just wish I had a different perspective on it all and that someone would have told me.

Reading these books just left me in prayer having faith that God will help say the right things at the right time. That where I am completely weak He won't be.