I have had a few friends asking for a little advice lately, so I thought maybe it would be time for me to start my first series of blogs based on that very topic. I am not a perfect parent, nor do I have perfect children. Over the last year or two, I have just learned a few things that I'd like to share. I don't usually offer up advice unless a friend asks. I just have found a few things that I tend to repeat to my friends who are new mothers. Those things are what I am going to share in this blog series. Take from it what you will. Parenting is a touchy subject, so I am by no means telling you how to parent your child. So here is my first post:
You are Your Child's Mother
I truly believe that God gave me Calan and Maisie as a gift and that he is giving me the knowledge and guidance to be their mother. I am not any other child's mother. I do not know how to parent someone else's child. God did not bless me with someone else's child. I believe that I have the instincts and knowledge to be solely Calan and Maisie's mother.
We have natural instincts and nurturing abilities that are distinctly important to our children. You have to trust that you know how to be a parent to your child. A mother's intuition is nothing to laugh at. It is there and you have it.
I, of course, make mistakes all the time, but, I think, mistakes are necessary obstacles that help me get to where I need to be.
As a new mom, ask for help, advice, and parenting guidance. Let those who have done it help you, but remember that you know your child and what worked for someone else's child may not work for yours. It goes without saying that every child is distinctly different and you are a distinctly different mom.
Why do I think this point is so important? Because it builds confidence.
If you believe that you know how to be your child's parent, than you can have confidence in the decisions you make for your child.
Every new mother worries. Every new parent wants the best for their child. Every child is a gift we don't want to screw up.
Have confidence that you are your child's mother and that you were designed specifically for that child.
Since this is my first time doing a series, please let me know how I am doing. Suggestions and advice and criticism would be greatly appreciated.
I think this is a great post!!! You did very well...showing both sides.
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The series is really just because I have had a few friends ask me the same things. This post is honestly just what I tell many of my friends who ask me how they know what they are doing is right. All new moms wonder that. I just tell them that you know because you are that baby's mom. I try to give them the confidence they need to trust themselves. It is so hard to do when you don't always know why your baby won't sleep or is crying or is doing anything new or out of the ordinary.
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